Mama
Sex Book
A platform for curious modern mothers eager to understand how society is f**king with their sex lives
Your voice is so important. Can you help a mama out and answer a few questions?
We become mothers
in the womb of society
A mother’s relationship with sex can’t be disentangled from how she feels about herself, how she feels about her partner, as well as how society impacts and constructs her worldview.
This worldview is made up of all the social/cultural/historical factors that shape one’s personal experience of motherhood.
Featured Interviews
Matresence:
The process of becoming a mother. An anthropological term to describe the physical, psychological and emotional changes (akin to adolescence) that marks the “birth of a mother.”
“In a sense, a mother has to be born psychologically much as her baby is born physically. What a woman gives birth to in her mind is not a new human being, but a new identity.”
The Intel:
Let's educate and support mothers in addressing why sex and motherhood is a web of physical, emotional, and social forces.
*this list of topics will be constantly growing as I continue research for the book,
Please help me deepen the narrative
Matrescence: Birth of a Mother
It says a lot about our society that the one golden ticket words that describes the whole complicated mess of becoming a mother—matrescence— an anthropological term to describe the physical, psychological and emotional changes (akin to adolescence) that marks the “birth of a mother,” is a word known by so few of us.
What makes Modern Motherhood so unique?
Not only are we the most educated group of mothers that has ever existed, we are a group of mothers who are experiencing an unprecedented level of maternal pressure. Not only are we are without our “villages” we are the first generation of mother’s whose entire experience is documented through social media. And depending on one’s own version of feminism, we are often victims of the absurdity of “having it all culture.” Modern motherhood is a blood sport.
The Mental Load of Motherhood
“MENTAL LOAD”: the total sum of responsibilities that you take on to manage “the remembering of things.” also know as remembering every little thing for everyone even though you hardly will get a thank you; see “invisible worker” and “emotional labor”
Our Maternal Inheritance
When we talk about motherhood, we can’t underestimate the importance of how we ourselves were mothered and how this impacts our relationship with sex. Our maternal lineage is: “The transgenerational repetition from mother to daughter of (in some cases distressing) mothering patterns.” How much of how we mother and how we think of “mama sex” has been inherited?
More Than MILF?
Porn tells us a MILF is sexy. So sexy, MILF or “Mother I’d Like to Fuck” is the subject typed int one in every four porn searches. But in the lived reality of so many women, why does MILF feel like an oxymoron?
Crisis of Pelvic Wellness
With such little postpartum support, too many women are living with pelvic health problems. Sex after baby shouldn't be painful.
Post Partum Mental Health
Becoming a mother is one of the most profound transformations a person can experience. Let’s normalize conversations about postpartum depression, postnatal depletion, the mama identity crisis, and the impact our culture of pressure, anxiety and guilt has upon modern mothers.
Post Natal Depletion
A physical and mental deterioration caused not just by the process of giving birth and breastfeeding, but by the stresses and strains of modern parenthood. A cousin of the weight of the “mental load”
